Hot Messes, Gender Roles + Surrendering

May 15, 2019

EP 89: Hot Messes, Gender Roles + Surrendering with Jai Sugrim

I love talking with Jai, because in some ways, we are polar opposites. We use different language, and yet our practices demand the same thing from each of us: surrender (his word)/softening (my word). We taught a class together on Divine Masculinity + Divine Feminity in NYC earlier this year + it was fun to teach alongside him.

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We talk about:
  • Learning from our hot messes
  • Working with intense emotions
  • Acceptance of whatever arises in your mind, including violent thoughts
  • Solitude as a way to observe what’s real
  • Mindfulness as a pause when fierce anger arises
  • How acting out of anger leads to regret
  • Cutting off relationships + drawing the line with friends/family who are complainers
  • Our inability to ‘save’ people
  • Waking up as a result of reflection on death or near-death experiences
  • 30% of New Yorkers are on medications for stress
  • Walking your talk + doing ‘shadow work’
  • Mentors + guides vs. being alone with what arises
  • Divine femininity + divine masculinity
  • What is a ‘good man’?
  • Unpacking things from our family lineage that we feel are ‘dark’
  • Jai gives me the low-down about testosterone ; )
  • Men’s circles: the important of men being able to be vulnerable around other men
  • Willpower vs. Surrender
More about Jai:

Jai Sugrim is aYoga Teacher, Athletic Trainer, and recognized Men’s Health Expert. He is the creator of the Jai Sugrim Method, a scientific approach for bringing the human body and mind into harmony. Jai has worked with many professional athletes, including the New York Yankees, during the 2000 and 2001 seasons. He earned a 2000 World Series Championship ring as the Yankees defeated the Mets in the World Series.

Jai is the creator and host of Yoga Sutra Now, a 65 episode Television Show on Z Living, which airs in over 20 different countries including the U.S, Russia, Poland, Egypt, Australia, and Morocco. He has been featured in Psychology Today, The New York Times, and on The Today Show.  During 2014 & 2015, Jai taught yoga and mindfulness to high school students at Frederick Douglas Academy in Harlem, through a grant from the Sonima Foundation.

Jai has worked in the health and wellness industry for 22 years. He is a C.S.C.S (Certified Strength & Conditioning Specialist,) L.M.T. (Licensed Massage Therapist,) Advanced Certified Jivamukti Yoga Teacher, Plant Based Nutrition Counselor, Master Practitioner of N.L.P. (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and has Completed Vipassana Meditation Training. He is licensed by the National Strength and Conditioning Association, the American Council on Exercise, the International Sports and Sciences Foundation and Jivamukti Yoga School.  

As a health & wellness educator, Jai enjoys sharing his healthy lifestyle and the enlightened teachings with students through his international retreats, speaking engagements, teacher trainings, TV appearances, one on one coaching, corporate wellness programs, and his writing. Jai has completed three NYC marathons, run in hundreds of other road races, plays basketball, trains in martial arts, lifts weights, and has practiced Yoga for the past eighteen years. He is based in NYC, lives in the wonderful borough of Brooklyn.

    Connect with Jai:
    Explore his website
    Follow him on Instagram: @jaisugrim

    Love + flower petals,


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